I had this really weird conversation with this really weird girl who msged me on friendster. Apparently I knew her way back in sec3, when I was still trying to be hardcore and screwing up my life. Incidentally, I vaguely recall knowing this girl. Vaguely. Apparently (again) a friend of hers whom I am currently in contact with, whose identity she refused to disclose, told her that I have matured and blahblahblah.
SO SHE WANTED TO RE-ESTABLISH CONTACT
Get a life.
Tool.
Being the tactful and gentlemanly guy I am, I simply told her I wasn’t gonna return to Singapore for sometime, so there wasn’t a point. She said she didn’t mind corresponding over email or msn, since she had also heard that I have become very charming (hello?! I was ALWAYS charming) and that I am DIFFERENT from the rest of the world – my values are generally incongruent with general society, sometimes even antithetical to it, but with justification, and she finds this “fascinating”.
So, with a click on my mouse, I removed her from my life. Forever. Not that she ever was a substantial part of it, but yea, u get my drift.
But I thought about what she said about distinguishing myself. I have always made an effort to.
And that thinking brought me back to the memories of the Joyce(s) getting all worked up about “our lives being nothing but a mimicry” blahblahblah. Supposedly Oscar Wilde wrote that. I am not aware that he did, and even if he did, he was just a dilettante in that field. I remember there was this guy who occupied a certain Chair at an Ivy League university (I think it was David Lewis, but don’t quote me on that) who once investigated the (im)possibility of one having thoughts which haven’t been thought about before, either in contemporaneous or historical times. Now this guy is the expert. Move aside Wilde. In any case, he predicated his investigation on an infinite mathematical possibilia and set theory, which I obviously don’t understand completely, but the fact is I agree. Yes I know im a dilettante too, but at least I don’t bloody write a poem which is made known to the world about it!
So does it mean anything to say that one is “different”? Difference is merely an act of distinguishment, it doesn’t mean that you are one-of-a-kind. I think a more snappy word is required for that. Incidentally, this is analogous with the need for a snappier name being needed for the “rule in Wilkinson v Downton”, or “the rule in Saundiers v Vautier”. Back to the point – “special” might also be complimentary, but it doesn’t connote the same thing, neither does “unique”.
My point is that, when I tell you that you are unique, different or whatever, that doesn’t mean you are one-of-a-kind.
ONLY I AM. Hee.
Nah, kidding.
Hmmm, I don’t know the point of this post. Ohwell. Hope it wasn’t too jarring for your eyes.
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Back to adverse possession. I actually find this topic quite interesting! Woot. Factual possession and animus possidendi and shit. Not bad, not bad.
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Ah! Which reminds me. Ok, i know this post has been too long.
Bugger off if you are lazy to continue.
Shing jiejie smsed me about an hour ago to say if she had the recurrence of the thought as to whether she made the right choice in choosing econs and a full scholarship as opposed to doing medicine in NUS, which had always been her ambition.
I have those recurrence thoughts and laments and regrets very frequently too.
But I think “regret” is a sterile disposition of the mind unlikely to do any good, and hence one should not bother to regret. But this is subject to one qualification – that before undertaking a decision, one must have properly and adequately considered it.
This is because if you had given due consideration to a decision, your decision seemed right to you AT THAT POINT IN TIME. So, if you subsequently realised that it was a wrong choice, that is completely fine. But there is no point hampering your mind and life with notions of “regret”, in the sense that you say “shit, shouldve done this, that or the other”.
As I always say “shouldve, could’ve, would’ve mate”
English sayings such as
“don’t cry over spilt milk”
and
“water under the bridge”
seem to give vent to my thoughts, but my point is not that since a decision has been undertaken, there is no point in reconsidering it since you have no recourse. My point is that regretting a decision only serves a negative (no positive) purpose- as a logical process it has no utility- this is independent of the cold, hard fact that you cannot rectify your mistake. hence, even if you could change the situation, dont regret it, just change it! after due consideration (again) of course.
Thank you ladies and gentlemen, the King has left the building.
SO SHE WANTED TO RE-ESTABLISH CONTACT
Get a life.
Tool.
Being the tactful and gentlemanly guy I am, I simply told her I wasn’t gonna return to Singapore for sometime, so there wasn’t a point. She said she didn’t mind corresponding over email or msn, since she had also heard that I have become very charming (hello?! I was ALWAYS charming) and that I am DIFFERENT from the rest of the world – my values are generally incongruent with general society, sometimes even antithetical to it, but with justification, and she finds this “fascinating”.
So, with a click on my mouse, I removed her from my life. Forever. Not that she ever was a substantial part of it, but yea, u get my drift.
But I thought about what she said about distinguishing myself. I have always made an effort to.
And that thinking brought me back to the memories of the Joyce(s) getting all worked up about “our lives being nothing but a mimicry” blahblahblah. Supposedly Oscar Wilde wrote that. I am not aware that he did, and even if he did, he was just a dilettante in that field. I remember there was this guy who occupied a certain Chair at an Ivy League university (I think it was David Lewis, but don’t quote me on that) who once investigated the (im)possibility of one having thoughts which haven’t been thought about before, either in contemporaneous or historical times. Now this guy is the expert. Move aside Wilde. In any case, he predicated his investigation on an infinite mathematical possibilia and set theory, which I obviously don’t understand completely, but the fact is I agree. Yes I know im a dilettante too, but at least I don’t bloody write a poem which is made known to the world about it!
So does it mean anything to say that one is “different”? Difference is merely an act of distinguishment, it doesn’t mean that you are one-of-a-kind. I think a more snappy word is required for that. Incidentally, this is analogous with the need for a snappier name being needed for the “rule in Wilkinson v Downton”, or “the rule in Saundiers v Vautier”. Back to the point – “special” might also be complimentary, but it doesn’t connote the same thing, neither does “unique”.
My point is that, when I tell you that you are unique, different or whatever, that doesn’t mean you are one-of-a-kind.
ONLY I AM. Hee.
Nah, kidding.
Hmmm, I don’t know the point of this post. Ohwell. Hope it wasn’t too jarring for your eyes.
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Back to adverse possession. I actually find this topic quite interesting! Woot. Factual possession and animus possidendi and shit. Not bad, not bad.
----------------------------------------------
Ah! Which reminds me. Ok, i know this post has been too long.
Bugger off if you are lazy to continue.
Shing jiejie smsed me about an hour ago to say if she had the recurrence of the thought as to whether she made the right choice in choosing econs and a full scholarship as opposed to doing medicine in NUS, which had always been her ambition.
I have those recurrence thoughts and laments and regrets very frequently too.
But I think “regret” is a sterile disposition of the mind unlikely to do any good, and hence one should not bother to regret. But this is subject to one qualification – that before undertaking a decision, one must have properly and adequately considered it.
This is because if you had given due consideration to a decision, your decision seemed right to you AT THAT POINT IN TIME. So, if you subsequently realised that it was a wrong choice, that is completely fine. But there is no point hampering your mind and life with notions of “regret”, in the sense that you say “shit, shouldve done this, that or the other”.
As I always say “shouldve, could’ve, would’ve mate”
English sayings such as
“don’t cry over spilt milk”
and
“water under the bridge”
seem to give vent to my thoughts, but my point is not that since a decision has been undertaken, there is no point in reconsidering it since you have no recourse. My point is that regretting a decision only serves a negative (no positive) purpose- as a logical process it has no utility- this is independent of the cold, hard fact that you cannot rectify your mistake. hence, even if you could change the situation, dont regret it, just change it! after due consideration (again) of course.
Thank you ladies and gentlemen, the King has left the building.
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